Books That Help Men Succeed in Relationships

Take some time to read books that will help you succeed in relationships.

Relationships are supposed to be fun and easy, yet many people fail to succeed in relationships. It’s true that relationships don’t come with an instruction manual. It takes time and patience to learn everything there is to know about your partner to the tiniest details -- from the way they move, how they deal with emotions, and express feelings. Take into account their favorite food, places to visit, movies, and pastimes.

Relationships can be a drag, but the satisfaction you get when you click with someone takes on an entirely new meaning. As stated above, relationships don’t include an instruction manual; but let’s not forget about the fact that there are guides or books that’ll help you succeed in relationships:

1. The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts - Gary Chapman

According to Chapman, “Falling in love is easy. Staying in love -- that’s a challenge!” Differences in love languages mean different ways of how we express and perceive love and it’s one of the most common issues in relationships.

It’s such a simple explanation of what can so often go wrong in relationships. It doesn’t compare men and women, but about the way people receive love. Chapman wrote the book to demonstrate each of our unique needs and how they must be met for effective relationships.

2. Couple Skills: Making Your Relationship Work - Matthew McKay, Ph.D., Patrick Fanning & Kim Paleg, Ph.D.

This book entails useful information, practical exercises, and accurate scientific research on how to make your relationship work. Good relationships are not born, they are built.

By reading the book, you’ll learn how to improve your communication skills, how to better cope with problems, and how to resolve conflicts with your partner in healthy and creative ways.

This book also teaches you the essential skills you need that support greater relationship satisfaction and deeper intimacy.

3. Deal Breakers: When to Work On a Relationship and When to Walk Away - Dr. Bethany Marshall

Relationships are like business negotiations. The moment we spot deal breakers means that the whole deal is off. Having an eye to spot deal breakers is one of the keys to a good relationship.

Identifying your deal breaker can be promising as it holds the possibility of helping you understand where the relationship has taken a left turn, what things need improvement, and when to walk away if it’s weighing you down.

4. The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships - John Gottman, Ph.D. & Joan DeClaire

This book decodes the subtle secrets that can either enrich or destroy the quality of our ties with others. The key element towards being successful couples is to strengthen our ties with family and friends, as well as to look at the principles for making marriage a successful one.

When we interact with people bidding for attention, affection, and connection and if we successfully respond to that, we are able to make strong and resilient relationships at home, or at work.

To summarize, when someone makes a bid, you can either respond by turning toward the bid and making that connection, or by turning away from the bid by ignoring it, or by turning it into a chance to fight.

5. When the Past is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds that Sabotage Our Relationships - David Richo

In this book, psychotherapist David Richo explains how being stuck in the past can destroy our present relationship. He stated, “We all have a tendency to transfer potent feelings, needs, expectations, and beliefs from childhood or from former relationships onto the people in our daily lives, whether they are our intimate partners, friends, or acquaintances.”

This book helps us to become more aware of the ways we slip into the past and how we can prevent ourselves from repeating them. The key to a healthy relationship in the present is to identify our emotional baggage and take steps to unpack it and put it where it belongs -- in the past.

6. Relationships: The Ultimate Guide To: Communication in Relationships to Handle Dysfunctional Relationships and Create Lasting Relationships - Mia Conrad

This book talks about dealing with relationship problems. The author wishes to pass onto her readers ways on how to have stronger and healthier relationships than they have ever had.

This book also helps you to identify and remove toxic people in your life. Upon passing on to her readers, she looks at what breaks down and ruins relationships, what makes it strong, how to make it last, and having healthier and happier family connections.

7. I Love You, But I Don’t Trust You: The Complete Guide to Restoring Trust in Your Relationship - Mira Kirshenbaum

Trust is what makes a good relationship. It’s a foundation of a strong and healthy relationship. This book helps couples to rebuild damaged trust between them.

In this complete guide, this book will also help you understand the stages by which trust strengthens when the rebuilding process takes place.

8. Love, Sex and Staying Warm: Creating a Vital Relationship - Neil Rosenthal

Let’s not forget the power of physical touch. Physical touch is vital in all romantic relationships. Falling in love is easy, but the hard part is how to maintain your deep love and passion over the years together.

This book entails all practical and actionable strategies to rekindle your flame, strengthen your relationship, and bring both of you back to the passionate love you once felt.

9. Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship - Mira Kirshenbaum

This book contains 36 questions and self-analysis techniques designed to get to the heart of relationship and marriage problems.

This straightforward and practical advice is designed for newer and older relationships and presents a plethora of information and experience in a clear and concise manner. The questions make you analyze things that make a relationship strong despite the curveballs that life throws at us.

10. 47 Little Love Boosters For a Happy Marriage: Connect and Instantly Deepen Your Bond No Matter How Busy You Are - Marko Petkovic

During the long run of a relationship, many couples struggle to spend quality time and to keep the romance and passion going. This book is based on testimonies from couples who are successful in their relationship as models. It demonstrates that it literally takes only minutes to connect with your partner and let them know they are loved.

Create Your Own Manual

Somewhere along the line, opportunities will arise that you’ll learn more about yourself and your partner. Take note and make lists on what to do and what not to do. Keep your partner in mind at all times, including life decisions and activities. This will surely help you improve your relationship for the better. Next time, who knows, you’ll be the one writing your own book that’ll help men succeed in relationships.